Last week was an interesting week. I did so much. I had a quite few great lunches with friends. Max on Monday, Tuesday it was Jeremiah, Lourdes on Wednesday, and Randy on Thursday. Friday I was so busy wrapping up my business at work, that I skipped lunch. The lunchtime events or the discussions were very dynamic and fun.
Monday’s lunch with Max and his new boyfriend was a challenge. (He’ll kill me for writing this) Maybe I’m too fond of Max to be a good judge, but these guys seemed mismatched. I could not get the new guy to engage in conversation. He made me feel obtuse, when I’m pretty sure he was the phlegmatic one.
Tuesday, I had a really sweet lunch with Jeremiah. I don’t think I’ve ever spent that much time alone with him and it surely was special. He had been under a lot of pressure with the end of the school year, and I was worried about him. His blog entry from a few days before our lunch, really concerned me. I finally realized, over lunch, that we share some characteristics, a nervous energy and our need to worry about others. I was at lunch to see how he was doing and I think he was doing the same for me. The advice he gave me was so dead on right. It sort of shocked me, that he understood me so well. Of course his conduit/boyfriend spends enough time with me, that I shouldn’t be shocked. Now if I could only follow JC’s sage advice, I might be happier.
It was great to see Lourdes. She has to be my favorite ex-employee, and I have quite a few ex-employees, I’m sorry to say. I came out to her and she was completely shocked. I am surprised that she didn’t figure it out before. We had lunch a month or so ago and I almost told her then, but chickened out. I threw some hints then, but she didn’t see it. During lunch, I think she realized she had missed the signs while she was working with me. Maybe I missed the signs too.
The lunch with Randy was great too. We went to a brew pub and sat outdoors. It was a beautiful day. We talked about so many things. He is moving to LA. (I hear he is already on his way) He’s so bright and hardworking, I know he’ll succeed. I don’t think he wants to go, but there are no real opportunities in Boston. Emerson hasn’t really treated him well. Of course Emerson is basically amoral when it comes to things like that. So what the heck? I told him he was doing he right thing. I believed it, I just hate to see him go.
In the end, it was a series of lunches with people that have or are moving on. So it fit into my transitional phase right now. The lunches made me happy, but made me long too, made me think about how many people I truly miss every day. I fall in love so easily, and never fall out. Pleasurable regret.
